Accepting versus changing

Why is it that most people set weight loss goals that they never acheive -- or if they acheive them, they do not sustain the weight loss over time?

The big reason is that the change is so hard to create that it impinges on the rest of one's life.  It lessens the overall quality because what it takes to create or sustain unrealistic weight loss does not fit well with how one wants to life ALL of the other parts of life.

Studies show losing 10-15% of body weight is clinically significant for things like diabetes, cardiac risk, knee pain, etc.  But how many of us just want to lose that much?  How many of us set ourselves up with desired but unrealistic weight loss goals?

What about acceptance?  How many of your diet gurus, books, weight loss shows have talked about acceptance?  Being willing to take the tough and objective look at what you want (lose 100 pounds and reach the weight you were when you got married) and see that although you could put your life on hold and with a ton of work, make this happen, your life is not in a place right now where you WANT to put it on hold.  You don't really WANT to make all of the tough eating choices on the side of losing weight.  Sometimes you want to have a really big bowl of ice cream and not worry about it.

Are you accepting that although you could and you think you should, you may not want to?  Have you looked at the option of becoming more accepting of how much you are honestly willing to do to lose the weight?