I just got done reading an excerpt from a book with the above title.
Fabulous article to get you thinking (the book just went on my to-do list)-- here is the gist:
Find a bright spot and clone it
The authors have pointed out that we are solution oriented thinkers. If there is a problem, we jump right to finding a solution. The issue with this is: When the problem is too big, we look for the correspondingly large solution and get bogged down by details.
At the start of every group coaching session, I ask each of the participants what they did well during the previous week. Even with advanced warning, the first week most of my clients have a difficult time coming up with one decision they feel positive about. In the beginning, they are looking for HUGE decisions that are earth-shattering. That is not really the stuff of life.
Life is lived in the small decisions. The quiet moments. The three minutes spent staring into the fridge at 9:30pm when you aren't hungry, aren't really sure why you are looking in there or how you got there in the first place.
The small moments are where mindful decisions can have a big impact. Define the ones that make you feel successful and figure out how you can adapt the success to other similar situations to achieve success there, as well.
If you are looking for bright spots, you don't have to reconstruct your life to be the perfect setting to achieve the perfect weight. If you are looking for the bright spots, you can look for more opportunities to insert "bright spot" eating decisions into your day -- if that is your focus, you can achieve success every day. You won't have to wait until you hit the "magic number" on the scale before you get the feedback that says you are on the right track. Most of all, you won't have to overhaul your life in unrealistic ways to achieve your goals. One eating decision at a time is each it's own success.
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