This thought struck me. In the second chapter of her book, Christiane talks about the tendency of our society to place blame for a situation on the person in that situation. Obviously, many of us would feel the injustice of blaming a person for an illness. But do we (as a society) feel outrage when an overweight person is blamed for their weight problem? Even the term "weight problem" denotes a certain amount of judgment about the weight.
Blame is defined as "to find fault with" -- the overweight person is put soundly in charge of his or her state.
Responsible is "answerable or accountable" -- as in the overweight person is the only one who can change his or her circumstances. There isn't a judgment -- no one is saying the weight is bad and therefore the person is bad. The weight just is.
Trying to find someone or something to blame for the increasing weight of our nation is a huge waste of time. Blame does not solve problems. Blame takes the easy way out -- it points the finger in a direction that has no relationship to the solution.
And the worst use of blame is when you blame yourself. Don't waste your time and energy!!
It doesn't matter how you got to the weight you are -- if you don't like it, do something about it. Take responsibility (remember-- no judgment.) You are the only one who can decide which changes need to be made .... and then make them.
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