“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” ~ Dalai Lama
You'll catch more flies with honey than you will with vinegar. Have you ever noticed that doesn't seem to be the pervading wisdom for losing weight? Apparently, our culture thinks shame, guilt, and berating are the appropriate methods for motivating loved ones, strangers, and ourselves into losing weight.
When your boss repeatedly comes in and yells at you, you may be motivated to do what he asks in the short term but you probably won't invite him to the staff Christmas party you're hosting at your home. You won't want him around and he probably won't get your best work out of you.
Is that the kind of relationship you want with yourself? Does yelling, berating, belittling and making yourself feel guilty really make you more effective managing your weight? No?! Then give it up.
This weekend, make an extra effort to be kind to yourself. Practice patience with yourself. Counter the negative talk with positive, actionable weight management plans and then execute on those plans. Use the weekend to jump start your weight loss as a way to be good to yourself.